Do you live in a home with your children and your mother and father? For some cultures this is a very usual way of living and in Canada it is becoming more common among every culture. As with all things, multiple generations living under one roof will have positive and also negative points. I want to show you a few of them in this article. If you have already left your parents and are thinking of moving back, for whatever reason, this article may also help you make that decision.
Let’s start by looking at the positive side.
- it may make better economic sense. If the property is very large, with a floor for each family, then this may not occur.
- you are living with your complete family surrounding you. A cosy family feeling with positive, close relationships is another benefit.
- if there are younger children in the house, then there is no need for babysitters, as they is normally going to be at least one family member around. The older generations are able to support or advise the younger generations, especially with regard to bringing up a youngster.
- the older generations may have health matters, therefore the younger members of the property can support them to living independently as much as possible. Assisting each other is the big benefit of living together, think about coming home from a long day at work and someone has prepared a meal for you.
- the older generation can feel by themselves, primarily if they are housebound or have lost their life partner. Living with their children and grandchildren could help combat these feelings, as they will always have someone in close proximity that they can call on.
So what are the not-so-good points?
- some of you might feel like they have no real private space, like they are never really alone.
- parents and grandparents could feel that you are interfering in their lives, or you may feel that they are interfering in yours all the time.
- how you bring up your kids could also create issues, with other family members ignoring what you want for the child.
- a very close relationship between children and their parents may not always be a good thing (women normally hate to be compared to the mother of their partner – eg “nobody can cook like my mom”).
- having to adjust to and having to respect the requirements and wishes of other age groups (sometimes they may be surprisingly different). Of course, it is inevitable to live in a home, which is capable of accommodating more family members Forest Hill houses is ideal for this.
It is very hard to give all the universal good and bad areas with regard to multiple generations living under one roof – it all depends on the relationships between family members and laying down clear rules right from the beginning. Put your point of view forward, don’t tell people what you believe they want to hear, be open. Just because someone else in the family wants to do this, that doesn’t always mean you do, so don’t be persuaded into it. When all said and done, if you are a bit miserable person, then other individuals are going to feel that, which makes for a very tense home and relationships could break down.